I was always thin as a kid, I put on the Frosh 15 and now stand about 5′10 190lbs. I wouldn’t say I have a spare tire, perhaps just a doughnut spare. Frankly, I haven’t made a healthy lifestlye a priority and I have nobody to blame but myself. I know that I always have complete control to change my body if it is important enough to me. How do I FEEL by having the extra weight? Good question. When I put on weight, I feel like I have let myself down. When I make a conscious effort to lose weight, I understand that the desire comes from not wanting to feel like a failure. Perhaps when people become overweight, they take on the same kinds of personal excuses for not losing weight as with other areas in our lives. We begin to do the “I could do this if it were really important to me”. We tell ourselves that doing this thing isn’t really important in order to avoid the fear of failure and avoid the possiblity of actually trying wholehartedly, only to experience the heartbreaking reality of failing at something that is really important. We make excuses that being this, or having that, isn’t really important. We say to ourselves, “When it becomes important enough to me, i’ll do it”. Unfortunately, many of us wind up getting caught up in the sometime, someday trap, being content and making mental excuses for not getting what we really want out of life.

If something is truly important to you, do what it takes to get it. It’s just as easy.

We all have a tendency to do fall into this trap, and I am certainly no exception. Recently however, I have decided to take life by the horns and get everything out of life I want. I am finding life to be much more exciting. Every opportunity I look at like a megamillions lottery ticket, however the odds are much better and i’m finanlly living life passionately and doing what makes me happy.

If you went to the doctor and he told you that you had 6 months to live, would you feel that your life served it’s purpose? If not, what would your purpose be in the time you had left?

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In order to get what you want, first you need to be clear about what it is that you want. This is based on your passion. People can’t take your passion away from you unless you let them. You need to have a burning desire to make your passion and vision come to reality. Life presents us with temporary setbacks and disappointments. Success comes to those who don’t let setbacks deter them from achieving what it is that is important to them.

You can have whatever you want out of life. The question becomes, how much are you willing to sacrifice and invest in your belief in order to achieve what you want. When you truly find what it is that you love to do (what was it about that job that was so exciting to you?), money and happiness will follow. Follow your passion and don’t settle when people say that you can’t have it. What right to they have to tell you that you can’t have what you want? If you want it bad enough and don’t give up on your passion and vision, you will have it. Wishing for something does not make it happen. Buring desire, plus a plan for achieving it will achieve the results.

What was it about the job that you wanted? You were obviously excited and inspiried at the possibility of doing something that excited you and when they told you that you couldn’t have it, you became discouraged and gave up on having it. You, and nobody else took away the possibility because you gave up on the possibility of having it. So what that they didn’t hire you. If you are passionate about doing work that means something to you, do it. Do it for yourself.

I hope you don’t mind my analysis here. I clearly see that you let a temporary defeat crush your dreams of having what you want. Stand up, brush yourself off and figure out how to get it. Ask people to help you figure out how to get what you want. I have dedicated my life’s work to helping people get what they want out of life. Don’t take no for an answer and don’t let anyone take away your dreams. You are in control. Follow your passion and you will be happy in life. That’s The Secret.

Kris

Anyway, I enjoyed your take on the subject, and I hope that you didn’t find mine too glib or tongue in cheek. Honestly, it’s actually something that bothers me, but when I write, I tend to get jokey– it’s a defense mechanism, I guess.

Anyway, thanks for sending me the link to this. It’s a really good read.